The other morning I was watching the morning news as I got
ready to head in to work for the day when a segment caught my attention. In the event that you haven't been paying
attention to the national news, a Duke University student has gone public with
the fact that she has been performing in pornographic "films" in
order to pay her tuition. Belle Knox (I
am assuming this is not her real name but her ‘porn’ or ‘stage’ name – which we
will need to come back to at some point) has been making the television talk-show
circuit and creating a blogosphere buzz.
While I can appreciate the fact that college tuition is far more
expensive than it should be, after hearing the rationalization and
justification for her decision, and her use of the language of ‘empowerment’,
something different than you might expect jumped out at me.
She said she had been in 26 Films.
26 Films?
Really?
This got me wondering - what exactly constitutes a ‘film’? Specifically,
what constitutes a ‘pornographic film’?
If we can sidestep the matter of whether or not Belle Knox’s
use of the word ‘film’ was cavalier or careless), it got me thinking. As I
dwelt on this, my first instinct was that she merely misspoke. In truth, what
this young lady was most likely referring to should be properly understood as ‘scenes’. The interchangeable use of term ‘film’ with ‘scene’
reveals, though, something significant – an insight - about how our culture has
adopted a nascent view of sexuality.
We are wholly focused on the friction of bodies and erotic
pleasure. A fully mature view of sexuality, empowerment, and dignity is less
concerned with the financial or sensual consequences of two bodies coming
together. It extends outside the
individual's experience into the broader culture. When recording a sexual scene
constitutes an entire film, what does it say about how we view sexuality?
If we go back to the early days of the mainstreaming of pornographic
movies, wasn't there some kind of story-line? Was there more than one scene of
different couples having sex? While I
confess that my knowledge of pornographic movies is fairly thin, Luke Ford's
book, A History of X, details how
even the early pornographers made some, albeit adolescent, attempt at telling a
story. It is a great piece of history, although it is unabashedly graphic and
not recommended reading for the faint of heart. Porn ‘films’ were more than
just a single recording of two people copulating,
But this highlights how pornography has changed over the
last 20-30 years and how it has impacted the generations that have come of age
in the world of digital porn. The widespread
availability of pornographic material online, anonymous access and the fact
that so much of it is free has cultivated a fractured view of sexuality
inasmuch as isolated scenes do not make up a film. These pornographic clips have
provided fractured snapshots of sexual encounters and not sexual relationships.
So much of the pornography that is available online is not available as
full-length movies. The vast majority of
it is freely available as short video clips which can be viewed
indiscriminately. While there may be
tags and categorizations of genres, the mindset of the consumer which is
revealed in Belle Knox’s throwaway comment is that somewhere along the way an
edited version of a sexual encounter is now viewed as a ‘film’.
Sex is embraced a form of emotional distancing rather than
emotional bonding. Our culture has crafted an understanding of sex that limits
it to short, concrete, simple and separate acts divorced from our emotional and
relational nature. Because of the development of gateway pornography hubs and
video sharing sites, the mass recording and distribution of isolated single
sexual encounters has lost all pretense of context, plot or narrative. The only things that are important are the
mechanics of orgasm. Because of this
narrow view of sexuality, we have lost its connection to intimacy,
relationship, and procreation. While I appreciate how one person may feel
empowered or freed by engaging in sexual intimacy (this form of intimacy is so
powerful that it can create a new life), the consequences of these actions
affect the community as well. Porn misses
the mark in that sexual power is not always used for selfish desires. How does participating in an industry that
grinds up and spits out women, that preys on financial injustices, and takes
advantage of the emotionally vulnerable affect others? What happens to these actors/performers
after they leave the set? I find it hard to believe that their relationship as
human beings off camera has not been affected (either positively or
negatively). A 2011 study has shown that women in the adult film industry are
disproportionately affected by mental health issues.
With pornography there is no follow-up. There is no larger context that we have
access to. It inherently is form of voyeurism that lies at the root of our
notions of sexual intimacy as "performance". Unfortunately much of
the pornography available online for the education of young minds and the
feeding of adult minds is not really sexual intimacy, but a strip-mined digital
recording designed to appeal exclusively to carnal, erotic arousal – a
performance.
Unfortunately many children today have seen pornography -
sexually mature adults engaged in adolescent staging of what should be a
romantic, erotic, sacred and intimate moment - before they have even entered
puberty. It is important to recognize
that one can become sexually mature (that is to say able to conceive a child)
before one is emotionally mature. Pornography trains its viewers to see sexual
encounters as somehow being completely independent – islands of ecstasy without
consequence. ‘Hooking Up’, “Friends with
Benefits’, and ‘Booty runs’ has become the language for sex on campuses across
the country, and has found its way into high schools and middle schools where viewing
porn online and sexting are rites of passage.
Sex has become a one-act play, digital media is the stage, and
we are merely actors.
But what happens when we leave the stage? What happens when
the cameras are off? The consequences of sexual acts is far-reaching. Pretending while you are being filmed having sex
doesn’t make it less ‘real’ for those involved. Files aren’t so easily scoured
from the computer networks, and the neurobiology of memory is a powerful force.
What we are missing is a broader story of human sexuality,
one where sexually intimate moments are best understood when they cultivate and
deepen the relationship between a man and a woman within a marriage relationship.
But in a world where sex is a commodity, marriage a contractual arrangement,
and consent the sole sexual ethical principle, is it surprising that Belle Knox
did what she did?
No, it isn’t.
Honestly, I am surprised there aren’t more young women like
her and will not be surprised if we see an increase in stories like hers. She
is a product of her times, but she is at the vanguard of young women who will
be pushing the empowerment narrative. We are broken people exploiting and
breaking one another. So many can come off as self-righteous and judgmental (seen
by the Comments online), or Prudish and this prevents a healthy engagement on
matters of sexual ethics. In turn this triggers those with differing opinions
to retreat to their own psychological defenses such as rationalized
“empowerment”, out-group labelling those who differ as ‘bigots’, or their own
form of righteous indignation. We become embroiled in a never-ending sanctimonious
loop.
None of us should look upon Belle Know with contempt, scorn
or disdain. She is young woman muddling through this broken world like the rest
of us are, trying to find her way through life. She is being exploited even as
she exploits others.
Who is exploited by her? The millions of men who sit at home
alone in front of their computers trying to find their way.
Who benefits? The pornographers who exploit both Belle and
the faceless men (or women) in front of their monitors looking for a sexual
jolt are the ones who receive the financial harvest.
So what should we make about Belle’s claims of
‘empowerment’?
We must be sure not to make the mistake of confusing sexual
activity as sexual empowerment, let alone the recording and public distribution
of sexual activity. Nor should we conflate notoriety and celebrity as empowerment.
Chasing after these will feed a narcissism that will never be satisfied. Nor should
financial security be equated with sexual empowerment. It is clear, though,
that financial need can lead to sacrificing our sexuality if it seems to be the
only option. It is the appeal to financial vulnerability that was offered
first, predating Belle’s empowerment defense of her choice to do porn.
But the language of empowerment is seductive, and especially
alluring to those who have been oppressed, disenfranchised, disempowered, or in
a place of need. It is also the language
oppressors prefer to use when deceiving the oppressed; it gets the oppressed to
embrace the oppression and celebrate it. True empowerment is found when we
claim what is already ours and confidently use it to the benefit and
flourishing of others. Empowerment is when we make choices that transform ourselves
and others into emotionally mature human beings. It is not self-centered, and it
doesn’t exploit others – this use of our power would make it dominance and
oppression which is to be condemned. Empowerment should be about removing
barriers so that we can have access and opportunities that lead to flourishing –
eudaimonia – where we do not treat
our sexuality as a means to some other end, but as an end in and of itself. It
has healthy boundaries that benefit the self and the community.
We cannot champion or celebrate that which should be
condemned. Sexual exploitation in all of its forms (prostitution,
sex-trafficking, pornography, child sexual abuse – and any other form of sexual
violence) should be condemned. But when it is wrapped in the beguiling cloth of
empowerment, our rational faculties seem to stall. In our culture today, there
is no better pill that the oppressor can get the oppressed to take than
self-deception. A poisonous center of misogyny is surrounded by a candy coating
of empowerment language.
Our culture loves to prey on women and keep them subservient,
and nowhere is this better evidence of this than in the sex industry. What is
best understood as a feast of sexual intimacy between loving spouses has been packaged
by our hypersexual culture in a convenient, ready to consume collections of
categorized clips (sorted by length and preference) on a porn website devoid of
relational or familial context. Just as a pornographic scene becomes a ‘film’,
a candy bar becomes a ‘meal’ that never really satisfies our true needs. Somehow
being spit upon, cursed at, slapped in a moment of extreme nakedness and
vulnerability while being used as prop for a stranger’s pleasure becomes
‘empowerment’. But appeals to empowerment and the cost of an education should
never be used to justify or rationalize sexual exploitation. Nor does consent by
someone who is vulnerable (financially, emotionally, or because of their age) reduce
the consequences of exploitation.
We human beings are so very good at deceiving ourselves, and
we are so willing to be deceived if it comforts us.
If you think that being involved in the production or
consumption of pornography doesn't impact a person psychologically, you are in
denial. You cannot consume thousands of
calories of junk food on a daily basis and have it not affect your health. In the same way you cannot consume thousands
of sexualized images and have it not affect the way you see others. You cannot consume pornography and have your
understanding and expectations of sexuality not be affected. And all of these
reasons can serve as a perfect storm to give us the Belle Knoxes of the world.
Women who have been groomed by a pornified, misogynistic culture that continues
to prey on them. It deceives them into thinking that by participating in a misogynistic
system they are ‘empowered’. Empowerment is not to be equated with stereotypical
bad male behavior. Empowerment language has so addled our minds that we confuse
‘scenes’ with ‘films’, sex with performance, and degradation with power.
My guess is that a year from now the majority of people will
have forgotten Belle Knox’s name (which is likely not the name given to her by
her parents). Yes, she will be only a Google search away and her fans may
remember, but like so many others who have been discarded by the sex industry
she will have made her money and then she will be disposed of.
But at what cost?
After being used as a sexual partner takes its toll, she may
invest in her ‘career’ by making surgical alterations to mask perceived
imperfections or improve her attractiveness. Criticism leveled at her
attractiveness has already begun to appear on the news websites Comments
sections. She may dive into alcohol or substance abuse, or she may do 100
‘films’ to pay for her college education and we may never hear from her again.
The question is not just at what cost to her, but what does
this say about our culture? There are so many other dimensions of this question
to be explored:
- If Belle Knox were an African American woman attending a less affluent school, would there be as much outrage? What does this say about our culture?
- If she were less attractive, would we care? What does this say about our culture?
- If we were talking about a man, would there be as much outrage, or would we be more permissive for male sexual immorality? What does this say about our culture?
- If we lived in a culture where human sexuality (especially women's sexuality) was not viewed as a recreational or advertising commodity, would these kinds of opportunities even be available? How many young women will entertain the possibility of this as an option? Wouldn’t a rapid influx of ‘talent’ reduce the financial benefit each person might gain?
The solution to the problem is for women and men to think
clearly about sexuality. Clear thinking on sexuality, however, is not found in
abundance in our culture. It is time for us to take a close look at how we
think about sexuality as a culture. We are heading down a road that is leading
us into a sexual apocalypse. It will be our children, grandchildren and great
grandchildren who suffer the most as we attempt to fornicate, rationalize and cavalierly
exercise sexual license in an attempt to find happiness, justice, and peace - True Empowerment.